Broken dreams leave kids and parents frustrated. A parent may think, "Why can't you apply yourself? What's wrong with you?" A kid may say, "I don't know what I want to do." Often, he or she knows but doesn't think it is possible. So why bother?
What we believe about ourselves is who we become. Another boy told me, "I got in trouble with the police once and everyone is calling me a bad kid." He learned on top of being told that, he is telling himself the same thing, "I am a bad kid." So, we have a good kid acting like the bad kid we all know.
Negative thinking, and its symptoms of negative feelings and actions, is a social, communicable disease that is carried back and forth from work to home to school. It may go viral on-line or viral inside our minds when we relentlessly replay negative thinking.
While knowledge of a solution is helpful, it's a kid's "self efficacy" or belief in his or her capabilities to overcome social pressure that empowers him or her the most. A parent told me, "We told our daughter if she posted certain pictures on social media it makes her vulnerable to attack. She did it anyway; it makes no sense."
Critical thinking skills help kids to understand how they formed their beliefs about what they are capable of and how to change them, stay positive, set and achieve passionate goals and overcome any adversity along the way.
For instance, when kids are being pelted with name-calling we can tell them, "If they treat you that way they aren't really your friends." Or we can teach them to draw that conclusion. An 11-year-old girl in my class was telling herself, "My friends say bad things about me." She learned how to change her thinking and came up with, "My true friends say good things about me. They are the ones I listen to."